Can you tell me if my ex or someone in particular is going or not going?

In short, no, for privacy and safety reasons. We respect the privacy of all of our attendees, and to maintain their privacy, we cannot disclose who is or is not registered or who has or has not attended, without their consent. Simply stated, most people attending kink and swinger events wish to maintain anonymity and choose not to make their attendance at such events public information. For that reason, they wish to maintain the ability to control who they tell about their attendance. Therefore, we cannot, without their permission, disclose their attendance, or even lack of attendance. 

Many attendees do RSVP on our FetLife event page; however, not every that says they are going are actually registered or will attend. Likewise, not everyone registered has RSVP'd on the event page. 

We understand that there can at times be safety concerns, such as when an attendee has been harassed or is being harassed or stalked, or if there is a safety concern regarding prior or future potential conduct of a particular person. In the event that someone's conduct is at the level of a safety concern or an actionable offense or crime, or other types of matters that require an incident report, please feel free to use the incident reporting process to report your concerns.